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The Philippines movie 18+list of women speaking out about their creepy experiences with Harvey Weinstein is only getting longer by the day. And as of today, Oscar winner Lupita Nyong'o has joined their ranks.

In an essay for The New York Times, Nyong'o has outlined, in heartbreaking and occasionally stomach-churning detail, a series of interactions with Weinstein dating back to 2011 – well before her first feature film, 12 Years a Slave, launched her to stardom.

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Nyong'o wrote that she first met Weinstein at an awards ceremony in 2011. Shortly afterward, Weinstein invited her to lunch (where he insisted on ordering her a diet soda and vodka, despite her repeated refusals) and then to his home, ostensibly to watch a movie.

She was watching the movie with Weinstein's family – including his young children – when he called her out of the room. Then this happened:

Harvey led me into a bedroom — his bedroom — and announced that he wanted to give me a massage. I thought he was joking at first. He was not. For the first time since I met him, I felt unsafe. I panicked a little and thought quickly to offer to give himone instead: It would allow me to be in control physically, to know exactly where his hands were at all times.

Once Weinstein decided he wanted to take off his pants, Nyong'o left.

In another instance, Weinstein met with Nyong'o in a restaurant, but before the food arrived, suggested that they finish the meal in his private room. This time, he was more explicit:

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I was silent for a while before I mustered up the courage to politely decline his offer. “You have no idea what you are passing up,” he said. “With all due respect, I would not be able to sleep at night if I did what you are asking, so I must pass,” I replied.

Nyong'o says that "his whole demeanor changed at that point," and recounts his cryptic response as she was leaving.

“I don’t know about your career, but you’ll be fine,” he said. It felt like both a threat and a reassurance at the same time; of what, I couldn’t be sure.

Everything Nyong'o describes in her account fits perfectly with what we now know as Weinstein's M.O.: the bait-and-switch "meetings," the requests for massages, the quid-pro-quo harassment, the veiled threats.

In addition, her story helps illustrate how Weinstein got away with this heinous behavior for so long.

After the massage incident, Nyong'o writes, "I didn’t quite know how to process the massage incident. I reasoned that it had been inappropriate and uncalled-for, but not overtly sexual." In Nyongo's account and others, it seems clear that Weinstein knew exactlywhere the lines were, and how far he could push his power to bend or blur them.

Moreover, she says:

... I was entering into a community that Harvey Weinstein had been in, and even shaped, long before I got there. He was one of the first people I met in the industry, and he told me, “This is the way it is.” And wherever I looked, everyone seemed to be bracing themselves and dealing with him, unchallenged. I did not know that things could change. I did not know that anybody wanted things to change.

Again and again we've heard – from men and women, from victims and enablers and innocent bystanders – that they learned to accept that this was just "the way it is," that this was "just Harvey," that they had to toughen up if they wanted to make it in this industry.

In short, they figured out pretty quickly that everyone else seemed fine with it, so they had to learn to be fine with it, too. Even if they never really were.

What we've seen over the past few weeks is an industry realizing that this was notfine, that "just the way it is" has never been and will never be an excuse for such abusive behavior. Stories like Nyong'o's serve as a stark reminder of that. Now the industry's next step will be to make sure it never forgets.

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